The FOOD OF LIFE people are the doers - they are the people you call when you need something tangible: dinner, house cleaned, dogs walked, baby held so mom ca get a shower or nap. They show up and do what is asked of them - no questions asked and no need for conversation.
The WATER OF LIFE people are the people that can sit in your pain with you. They let you cry. They let you freak out. They let you get it out. They are the people you can sit with for an hour and leave feeling like you can go climb a mountain when an hour before you just wanted to lay in bed and cry. They are the people that don't bat an eye at the tears, they are the people that can just be with you in your shitty place for a minute and you know it will be alright.
About a month before I was hospitalized with Ollie I had made my list. My list included about four food people and two water people.
And then it happened and I needed my people. I needed ALL the people. And you know what, they showed up! People that I just consider acquaintances, they showed up. People that I would call friends but only see once a year, they showed up. Those people on my list, they showed up - almost daily. People that I have never met but are a part of my mom 'tribe', they showed up.
When I was unable to carry my own daughter, ALL the people showed up and carried me and my family.
Thank you for taking my daughter to work with you. Thank you for being with my daughter even though you have never been alone with a child. Thank you for manning wake ups. Thank you for doing daycare drop off and pickups. Thank you for all the food. Thank you for sitting with me at the hospital. Thank you for gathering our tribe. Thank you for the flowers. Thank you for the distractions. Thank you for the kind notes. Thank you for helping work transition smoothly. Thank you for ALL the presents for me and daughter. Thank you for the constant check ins. Thank you for sitting with me as a I sobbed. Thank you for dying my hair purple. Thank you for all the food. Thank you for babysitting me at my home. Thank you for listening. Thank you for taking time out of your busy life to think of us. Thank you for all the prayers and positive vibes. Thank you for helping us survive. Thank you for visiting us at the NICU. Thank you for the amazing pictures. Thank you for not batting an eye at my need to pump during our visit. Thank you for helping us financially. Thank you FOR ALL THE FOOD!
Friends - THANK YOU FOR HELPING US SURVIVE.
I am so grateful. Everyone has a really busy life that makes it difficult to even see each other on a regular basis, but when I needed you there wasn't even any hesitation. You were just there. Thank you.
We are finally coming to the other side of this traumatic event and we are all thriving. I hope one day we will be able to give back, but I don't hope any of you have to experience this.
Also, we still have serving wares... please remind me if we are holding yours :/